Read and learn about things you are interested in, but take time as well to learn about things you think other people would be interested in. A conversation is much more than an exchange of facts and ideas. What many people miss is that when you know how to make chit chat, it means you can create a positive exchange of energy.Knowing a few good facts that other people can relate to is better for chit chat purposes than having a head full of information that makes the eyes of other people glaze over. The topic is just an excuse, so it doesn’t have to be a deep topic. If an interaction with a person goes well, do move the conversation to deeper and more personal topics.If you don’t have one, it’s time to create it (e.g., read, travel, try new things, take on various hobbies, do some charity work, socialize, etc.). Anecdotes, important pieces of facts, names of people you need to remember - anything can go in that diary. Making chit chat makes a lot of sense with people you’ve just met.
and is it really always the horror story you hear about, or can it be milder? (I have several water-filled blisters all up my cheek, which feel like a slight burn.
doesn't seem typical, but the kids have pox and I'm not sure I had them as a child).
When you’re making chit chat, you want to focus more on being friendly and positive than on picking the right topic or saying the right things. You can talk about topics (e.g., family and relationships, career plans, life goals, challenges, etc.).
Smile, relax, joke around, be spontaneous and be silly. You now find yourself in a new land: the land of bigger chit chat.
tx, betty12 - I'm not in the least stressful place I've been in my life, so I'd be easy pickins.