He doesn’t call you during the week because he doesn’t WANT to. This is all obvious to everyone but you (and maybe your equally dreamy and romantic girlfriends). Fact is: people tend to become exclusive FAST – often within days, but generally not much longer than 6-8 weeks. And he’s going to say to you when you’re done: “You’re right. Keep doing this weak-ass guessing game, hoping that he’s going to step up and fall in love with you? But first show me a bunch of happily married couples who were fuck buddies for a full three months before becoming exclusive. Except you know and I know that this isn’t what’s gonna happen. He’s going to look at you with a half-smirk, half-frown on his face. You just need the courage to tell these players to piss off. My question, even after “How Do I Get Him Back”: would he or could he ever change, even with all your relationship assistance and my best efforts? In that time, I’ve had nearly 1000 private clients who have engaged
To me, this illustrates the tremendous power of wishful thinking.
The idea that a man who is emotionally unavailable after three months will suddenly become emotionally available after six. I think I’m falling in love with you.” The men who left you walking on eggshells did the complete opposite.
This action in the face of ambivalence will often help you decide, one way or the other, where your heart really lies.
Remember that ambivalence is not good or bad, it just is.
You can act in the presence of ambivalence – If you are really stuck, Page suggests that you pretend that you aren’t ambivalent.