This raises questions of care and respect, two clearly admirable concerns that often work together, but nonetheless can sometimes conflict, often causing tragic problems when they do.
Take, for instance, the case of manipulation, in which you lie to the other person, telling her that you don't want to see her anymore, to make her leave.
The guy who's really good at being manipulative — to the point where you don't even know you're being manipulated.
He's a smooth operator and no, he is not a member of the English group Sade.
Inevitably, at some point in the beginning of the relationship, I would experience a wave of intense guilt and self-conscious hubris: how dare I think that I'm good enough for this amazing person?