I agreed with that, but also told him that the reason why hearing from only those people is frustrating is that it makes you wonder what it is about you that is attracting only these people.
It also serves as a reminder of what’s out there and…as I’ve said before…you get older it becomes slim pickins.
So use online dating in conjunction with 2-3 other ways to meet someone. Take a home improvement class or a cooking class or a writing class. Switch it up or do all these things in conjunction with each other. Really work on being approachable in any situation. Go to bars to socialize, to hang out, to de-stress. And it’s usually one of these: We want it all right now. We assume that if someone doesn’t feel the same way we do when we do then they aren’t right for us.
Walk with your head up, make eye contact, smile…it at the deli, on the subway, at church…where ever. But don’t go to a bar with the specific intent of meeting a man. Ladies – Stop going out in groups of 3 or more single friends. Ignoring issues that are getting in the way of being happy and secure? We grow resentful of those people who do have an easier time meeting someone and that resentment morphs in to bitterness and negativity. A fear that we will never meet anyone, that we will end up alone.
It’s about thinking “as if.” In January, I joined Dating Dummy’s Blog Wide Workout group.