The emotional strain of court proceedings is felt, moreover, by each spouse (regardless of who initiated the litigation) and also by the children, by other family members, and by friends and work associates who interact with the litigating spouses.
Within these separation agreements people often outline how their property will be divided, how much, if any alimony will be paid, how child custody will be arranged, and what amount of child support will be paid.
A separation agreement can contain any one or all of the issues.
Once your case is litigated, you lose control over the process even when you think you (and your attorney) may be influencing the judge.
The outcome of litigation is, moreover, never a real victory for either side.
Separation agreements are papers, which once signed by both parties involved, are binding as contracts.