Imagine what it’s like when you’re objectified wherever you go. A reasonable man with looks and money and life experience might very well say to himself, after five dates with nothing more than a kiss, “Screw this.
I’m going to find a woman who matches my passion, who makes me feel attractive and sexy, who is excited about me.” It’s not that you’re wrong for attempting to protect yourself, Ashley.
I am 25 years old and have never been in a serious relationship.
I am a very attractive girl and I tend to meet guys easily and go on dates mostly every weekend. You’re catered to so frequently that you may lack some kindness, empathy or social grace.
Well, there’s this previous blog post that discusses this phenomenon. If she is meeting them through Match or some kind of traditional dating service, maybe she can pick a more specialized one.
And I’m delighted to report that I actually have a five minute VIDEO that takes on the same topic. Despite your very accurate concerns that men want to sleep with the pretty girl, pretty girls get married ALL THE TIME. They let down their guard, they take a chance, and they TRUST. Evan has all kinds in the sidebar, though I think he could stand to add some of the veggie singles sites 🙂 Also, are these hot guys (who might, as others have pointed out, be shallow and not call if she doesn’t put out right away) or regular joes (who might feel patronized or suspicious if she hasn’t established some non-sexual connection with them prior to the date that would explain her interest)?
I know I’ve gone on a bit of a tangent here, Ashley, because it’s very rare that we hear that the root of someone’s problems stems from being too attractive, but I believe that is the case.