But sometimes one party or the other doesn’t have that interest or time; that’s fine too.
Which is to say that you may be trying your hardest to be interesting and engaging and fun to be around — and still come off as a creeper to someone else. It may not seem fair that “creep” is their assessment of you, but: Surprise!
It doesn’t matter, and if you try to argue with them (or anyone else) that you’re in fact not being a creep and the problem is with them not you, then you go from “creep” to “complete assbag.” Sometimes people aren’t going to like you or want to be near you. This apparently has struck some to be dreadfully unfair, with the implication being that other people responding to folks (usually men) as creepers when in fact they’re trying to make an effort to be charming and witty and fun (or whatever) is some sort of special case in the interaction of human beings, and that such mismatches between intent and reception hardly ever happen in other situations.
Is it OK to track them down on Facebook before you’ve met? Is Googling them an invasion of privacy or simply a way of doing your due diligence before you meet?
And how do you handle things when you can see that your date is still active on Match and Ok Cupid?
Despite being more popular than ever, online dating still remains a potential minefield for social etiquette and self-esteem.