Simply put, most women could not accept having a diapered boyfriend.And they were shallow enough not to consider the _medical need_.I have since learned to ignore such women the moment I pick up on that "red-flag..." I have opened this forum for others to discuss their own experiences with incontinence and dating. How did you present your medical of incontinence products to your partner? Did you make your condition known from the first meeting?
(any comments about that in particular would be helpful) but apart from here is there anywhere that we can go that has a good socially active community where there may be a chance for dating? Weirdly and I wasn't expecting this at all, I've found the best place to be fetlife, I tied a couple of other places but I was never able to even start a conversation, I joined fetlife and within two weeks I had two baby girls messaging me, not to mention there is such a large socialisation/community aspect to it.
Also I've found I'm now really keen to just meet people, whether or not it is for a relationship. Given the overwhelming maleness of the (online) AB/DL community, however, I can't help but imagine that the AB/DL dating scene is a pretty lopsided and unproductive place.
It is just I have my own priorities/goals/desires in life and I do not want to waste time (both mine and theirs) with someone who cannot align up.
Similarly, in a business, we would never want to waste time (and money) on someone who really does not fully meet or exceed the qualifications for the job. But you need to be willing to go to munches and events and meet people in person.
It's perfectly natural to want somebody to share these... If you're looking for a girl, for instance, and especially if you're only looking locally, your chances of finding a compatible mate (not an already-unlikely "friends with benefits" scenario) have got to be close to zero. Yes that is the second time now I have heard that about Fetlife. Initially I was not that interested in it but you cant beat good testimony :-) thanks everyone Whenever I see experiences like that I can't help but remember the #1 rule: "Welcome to the internet, where men are men, women are men, and kids are FBI agents".