For an emasculated man from the United States this is a nightmare.
Penetrating that group of friends, playing “the game” in order to get to your “target girl” is hard work, and sometimes does not work if you don’t speak Spanish well enough for her to understand.
Actually, I got more instant attention in Southern California; the “Latino effect.” The only thing that makes me stand out to women here is my height, thank God for that one tall great uncle! This is a big plus for me here because I’m naturally outgoing and funny, so I can really be myself when speaking Spanish.
It is hard for one’s true personality to translate when speaking another language, but luckily I am a fluent Spanish speaker, and have learned enough Paisa slang to be my witty self.
Many guys who come to Colombia cannot pick up girls in their own native language let alone in Spanish and some even have the audacity to say that the women here are just “gold diggers” or “too difficult” and that is not accurate at all.