That's why men shouldn't even look to them for one night stands, because that's not fair to the kid.
What message does that send in the kid's early years? I find the concept of raising another man's children to be revolting.
Upside: You’ll have plenty of time to maintain your own friendships and hobbies, instead of becoming one of those obnoxious enmeshed couples who have forgotten they are not, in fact, surgically attached.2. Want to know the fastest way to end your relationship with a single mom? Not only were they in her life first, but she’s the reason they exist at all. They’re not an inconvenience and they are definitely not your competition. Would you really want a woman who let some new person — even one as rad as you — take precedence over her kids? It’s something to be admired, even if it didn’t end up the way anyone had planned.
(Balls joke avoided.) The sitter may bail on her, her kid may come down with the flu, she may just need to lay down for a while because trying to be Wonder Woman when you don't actually have superpowers is really fucking exhausting. She probably can't drop everything and hop on a plane to Ibiza with you, and her schedule is probably measurably more complex than that of someone who is flying solo.
Her free time is precious, and you're probably not getting all of it. So when she finds herself without children for a few hours or even a few days, don't blame her if she has a list of things to do and they don’t all include you — even if that list consists of binge-watching TV and sleeping in. Situations differ but generally speaking, if your once-partnered lady has kids, those kids likely have another parent that's still in the picture in some capacity. Your lover had a life before you and at some point, that included a partner with whom she had a kid or five. Sometimes that can be hard to do, but you can do it — even if her ex is a special brand of asshat — which brings us to our next point …4. In the event you have found yourself really digging someone whose ex really makes you want to go WWE on his or her ass, we have a bit of advice for you: It's admirable that you feel protective of your partner and it's natural to have ill feelings toward someone who is hurting your partner in some way, but the best possible thing you can do in this situation is to let her handle it and support her as she does. No passive-aggressive Facebook posts, no antagonizing texts, no standoffs at the PTA fundraiser. A million dollars says she already knows, she already feels sh*tty about it, and she doesn't need to hear it from you.
If the single lady you are interested in is also a single mom, chances are her free time is limited. Yes, you need time together and yes, you should make her list of priorities, but don’t expect to be the list, and don’t whine if she wants to see friends or recharge alone. Don’t just understand that they come first, embrace it. This can be challenging in the best, most-amicable of situations, thanks to our very human natures and pesky evolutionary flaws like jealousy. She loved, she created a family, and at some point, she let go.
And what real man would even allow himself to be in a situation where he had to contend for number 1 spot in a relationship with a woman? Its always guys who have been damaged in some way or need a lesson manning up.