Accusations such as “You’re saying abused women are asking for it,” or “You’re blaming the victim,” get hurled.No person — female or male — is asking for it, and no victim — female or male — should be blamed for what is done to them.That, however, fails to be a compelling reason not to discuss the role of women in domestic violence.
Incidents of domestic violence against women occur every 15 seconds in the U. Add to those glaring examples of epidemic-like violence against women figures college/university campus date rape statistics, the high rates of sexual assault in South Africa, the Save Our Girls campaign in Nigeria, and the list could go on and on.
Yet, although violence against women and girls includes domestic violence, not all domestic violence features women and girls as the victims. Let me be clear, the hesitance in speaking about female-initiated domestic violence is rooted in a very real concern about what the discussion can give way to: a dismissal and abnegation of the actual dangers women face.
Neither does a hard look at real terrorism, perpetrated by entities such as the Islamic State, have to degenerate into Islamophobia.
So, conversely, a sincere critique regarding the totality of domestic violence does not have to be reduced to a capitulation to misogyny and sexist insensitivity.
In fact, in the 71 percent of nonreciprocal partner violence instances, the instigator was the woman.