READ: 10 Good Reasons You Should Wait Until Your 30s to Wed Experts agree that regardless of the situation, you shouldn't get involved with a married man until the divorce is finalized — and here are five reasons why: “If his dating you is a secret to his wife, friends, families and even his acquaintances, then he is not in the phase of separation that is ready to date,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Not to mention, having to hide the relationship is exhausting and damaging to one’s self-esteem.
They saw it all, and they don't want to see it again.
It's possible you don't meet them for a while for this reason, because even your new significant other knows they will pepper you with questions like you're on a second interview.
Who wants to sit around, hearing about why him and his wife didn’t get along, when you could be out having a real relationship with someone only focused on you?
“His divorce drama is problem, not yours” says Barnes.
In other words, they've graduated from the prestigious "How to really please a partner" college, and you get to be the lucky benefactor of this degree. He or she has been fully immersed in it, and he or she won't take anything less than the real thing.