“Sarah,” a 31-year-old woman who has been single for three-and-a-half years and requested Vocativ use a pseudonym to refer to her, is active on both Tinder and Bumble, but says she prefers Feeld in finding her ideal dating partners: men in open relationships.
Feeld, she says, is better for finding this given the type of sexually and romantically open-minded match.
Both were intrigued by the idea of seeing the people they hurriedly passed in New York, where strangers are notoriously cold to one another IRL.
OKCupid, another one of the most well-known dating apps, also added more gender options to its offerings in 2016, and recently expanded its matches to include those looking for polyamorous relationships.
It’s at least plausible that this change was made following the hype surrounding “Feeld,” originally called “3nder,” the first major dating app for those looking to engage in relationships or sexual encounters that come in threes.
Both say that they began using Happn in 2014 “for fun” — in fact, it was the first dating app that Matt had ever used, and he only did so after his coworker told him how her relative used it to find out she passed a well-known actor she was a fan of while on the street.
“I felt like dating apps seemed a little desperate or the things that [others on the app] were looking for wasn’t exactly what I was looking for,” he said.
Julie Spira, an online dating expert who has been coaching people in finding the right match for about 20 years, says that this is in large part due to the fatigue many are beginning to feel when hours of swiping result in very little real-life action.