They’re sure it will sound false, or they’re worried about being called out for it.
But a poor or obvious observation will get you blown out of the set unless she already decided she wanted you to open her before you said a single word. You use them on people who don’t work at the venue. Rather, find two or three which you feel comfortable with, and get them down cold so you have them “on tap.” You should be able to find something in one of those categories which is congruent with who you are presenting yourself as. The girl is offering you a new subject to engage her on.
A good example is: “Hey, two beers over here, please” These are very effective if the mistake is plausible, and the target hasn’t heard them before. A common one is to take note of some entirely appropriate activity the set is engaged in, and tell them it’s not allowed. For shame, drinking isn’t allowed here.” The goal is to get them laugh, or, even better, to engage in a role-play with you. These openers involve simply walking up to a girl and saying, “Hi, you looked so beautiful over here I had to come up and say hello.” Or, “You look interesting, I’d like to get to know you.” For these openers to work, you must already be perceived as high value. Often, less is more: if you know ten openers, you’ll waste time trying to figure out which one to use. A lot of beginning PUAs are terrified that their target will recognize their opener, or ask a question like, “Are you a pick-up artist?
All you do is notice something interesting about the room, or her, and share it. Take one half step away from them, then turn back and say, “So how do you guys know each other?
For these openers to be effective, you need to actually be noticing and commenting on something interesting and non-obvious. Some of these openers, you’ll notice, segue right into a conversation.
Some of this makes sense: the opener is easy to teach (by the end of this article, you’ll know more than one).